I have
always tried to live in such a way that when the time comes for me to enter the
twilight of my life I will be able look back and say I would do it all
again. Of course, with the knowledge and
wisdom that age and experience bring we may look back at events in our lives and
think how we would handle them differently based on what we know now, but that
is as things ought to be, an indication of personal growth and learning rather
than a source of regret.
When
relationships break down it is easy to be filled with regrets, to think about
the words that we could have said and the things that we could have done
differently. At times amidst the raw
pain of separation regrets can be all that we seem to have, and we can scramble
around frantically in our minds looking for the things that we can say or do
now to make a difference, words and deeds that could somehow turn back the tide
and make things right.
At the
realisation of a relationship’s end we can be torn between thoughts, to fight
or to accept, to hold on or to let go, to keep in touch or to break away
completely. There are no firm rights or
wrongs, we can only do our best amongst the rising tide of our emotions to ride
the wave that feels best at that time, especially when we know the journey will
be difficult whichever choice we make.
And having
made difficult decisions it is inevitable that we shall look back and question
the wisdom of our choices, allow regrets to seep in and to infect our
thoughts. And how we act in these turbulent
times is one of the challenges that we face on our way to a better future. Because in the end we need to be able to look
ourselves in the mirror, to be able to walk tall with our dignity and
self-respect intact. There are things we
may need to say and do to bring closure, one way or the other. And when we do so, amidst our hurt and confusion
we must strive to be true to our higher principles, to follow the course that
feels right in our heart, with sincere intent, without fear, and without
wishing to cause hurt to others.
In The
Masterplan Noel Gallagher of Oasis sings,
“Take the
time to make some sense
Of what you
want to say
And cast
your words away upon the waves
Sail them
home with acquiesce
On a ship of
hope today”
In saying
what we need to say we leave ourselves emotionally raw, swaying between the
hope that things can be different and the fear of facing what we have lost and
having to accept that we will have to find a way to move on and let go. But in being true to ourselves when we act,
in acting out of love and not fear, in being prepared to accept whatever
outcome knowing that whatever happens we did our best, then we will find our
peace and one way or another we will move on to what life has in store for us
next.
Soundtrack: The Masterplan - Oasis
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